The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals on February 7 (2012) declared California voter-approved Proposition 8 to be unconstitutional. Looks like a Supreme Court debate is headed our way.

I live in North Carolina.  Amendment One, which will appear on our May 8 ballot, would define marriage in the state as between one man and one woman.

We really shouldn’t let judges, legislators,  conservatives, fundamentalists, or the media frame such debates in terms of same sex marriage.  There is a problem with talking about same sex marriage.  And it’s a big one.  The problem is not that same sex marriage will harm heterosexual marriages.  I’ve been hanging out with GLBT folk now for some time and they have not harmed my marriage, only enhanced it.  And for the record, my attraction for attractive heterosexual women has not diminished one bit and attraction for males simply does not exist.  The problem is allowing heterosexual homophobics to frame the debate as same sex marriage distorts the truth of reality and ignores some human beings, acting as if they do not even exist.  I am referring to intersexed people, hermaphrodites, bisexual, bigender, and transgender human beings.  Such people simply don’t fit the spiritual, legal, gender, and marriage categories of the heterosexual homophobics who greatly reduce the world with their theologies and laws. Heterosexual homophobic thought is binary in nature:  gays and straights, male and female.  Life is not that way for many people.

Here’s a question:  do states recognize marriages between two intersexed people?

Our theologies and laws must take into account all the evidence, including the evidence about intersex human beings. The statistics about intersex people (follow this link) are approximations.