Dear R, Bravo for putting yourself out there. Here’s the thing: wanting a deep connection isn’t the problem. But on a first date, going full “soul excavation” can feel like jumping from a cup of tea to a six-course banquet. Not everyone’s appetite will match yours. I suggest pacing yourself. Think of dating like music: start with a gentle intro, then build to the chorus.
Share little pieces of yourself, watch how they respond while leaving space for curiosity. Deep connections are built over time, not in a single date. Don’t be discouraged, just take things slower.
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"Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.” — Brené Brown
Brené Brown is An American academic, podcaster and researcher. She is known for her work on courage, vulnerability and empathy, and for her widely viewed 2010 TEDx talk.
